Sometimes I forget that in this world, competition is now the norm. It’s hard not to let it take over at times, especially when you’re starting something new.

It’s so easy to compare your efforts to another’s and get angry or disappointed with yourself as a result. But we shouldn’t do that, and here’s why.

More often than I’d like now, I come across people who thrive off competition. Those who need to be winners at everything they do – be the best, sod the rest types. Loud and proud, large and in charge.

You know what though? Those guys are dicks.

I’ve never been a competitive type of person, at least not externally. Internally, I want nothing more than just once to be at the top of my game. I’d love to be at the top of my field, even if only for a little while.

That’s not something I’d ever say out loud, but I think many others would admit to as well. Might be in the sport I play (doubtful), maybe in my work (again, doubtful) – but it’s a hidden driver of mine to do really, really well at something.

Problem is though, I’ve realised that in today’s society, it’s not enough to just try hard, or have a skill or talent. You’ve also got to be a shark about it. A total and utter predator.

In short, you’ve got to be a competitor.

Competitors use tactics. They’re game players. They snoop and they make digs. They resort to tricks and whisper campaigns. Competitors canvas and cajole others into getting behind them. They do whatever they have to in order to win at whatever they’re doing.

Whatever they have to do.

Someone I know from reality recently admitted to physically blocking the doorway of a woman he was trying to do business with. She wasn’t interested in his offer. He wasn’t taking no for an answer. Without context, those two sentences are pretty horrifying together. When prefaced with the notion of doing what it takes to become a successful business owner, many would praise him for his dogged determination.

I wouldn’t. I’d call him arrogant, possibly even a bully. But then again, I’m nowhere near as successful as he is…and probably never will be.

Success now appears synonymous with competitiveness. Has it always been this way? In order to become a winner in my chosen field, do I have to resort to competitive tactics? “You’ve got to do whatever it takes to make yourself stand out” is what I hear so often.

Why are the arseholes the ones that stand out? Why do we reward bullish behaviour and loud, self-involved egomania?

Mistakenly, we tell ourselves that effort alone will reap the rewards we crave. Keep your head down, stay motivated, work hard. And yet time and again we see others appear to succeed, win prizes, be given recognition and praise – where it really feels undeserved.

Is it possible to be the best at something without being a bulldozer? Probably…but I’d bet it’s a hell of a lot harder.

Maybe I’ll never be one of life’s winners. But I’ll also never be a competitor.

6 thoughts on “Competition”

  1. My wavelength has so much you on it <3 I completely agree – maybe self-publishing is just the way forward! Follower counts mean jack shit if no one is engaging, and people only engage when the writing speaks to them (well, for me at least) xx

  2. Great piece, I feel the same and hate competition. The politics and tactics involved to be a so-called successful blogger really upsets me. The whole awards thing is utterly absurd, and has been turned into a factory line popularity contest. Same as getting a book deal, it's only for those with 50k+ followers on IG these days. Sigh.

    I’m hoping that good writing skills and integrity will win the day in the end ♥️

  3. I know exactly what you mean (being a sweary but nice mofo meself ;)) I think being unwilling to trample over others is an awesome talent in its own right! Shame there are so many arseholes who spoil things for others x

  4. Unfortunately "nice guys finish last" as they say and it is true. I may be a sweary mo fo but I am also nice and fear I will never amount to much. Not because I necessarily lack the talent (possibly this) but I lack the willingness to trample over those in my path. I think for some talent will shine through but not for most

  5. I think that it’s still very much that, if you want to win you must tsunami and not a ripple, I love how you worded this all, it’s unfair that the little ones are often ignored because others are louder.. which doesn’t always mean they are better!

    Blogging or life in general needs to change before we can fully be happy with what we’ve got and not look over at our neighbour and wish our grass was just as green.

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